Friday, June 5, 2009


Yo, is anyone else tired of seeing these kind of images on reality TV over and over again??
Yeh, me too and so is Raina Kelley. Every time I turn on the tube, I am assaulted by a barrage of images of women portraying the most negative stereotypes available to them. Stepping on each other for cash, degrading themselves for cash, obsessing over cash, doing all of these things just to be next to a man who has cash ... seeing a pattern here? 

You don't even need to watch any of these shows! The commercials are enough to make the vomit rise. Look, I am not knocking mindless entertainment, I need to shut my brain off occasionally too, but couldn't we have like 1, just ONE normal female on reality TV every now and then? 

And when you start talking wedding shows, the field of real women becomes so narrow as to be completely nonexistent. Really? Really WEtv? Are we really all screeching, nagging, fit throwing psychopaths when it comes to tiny napkins with our initial on them? Cause I dunno about you, but I'm good without the napkins .... oh and without the adult size hissy fit these women seem to think is the only appropriate reaction to every circumstance in life ... ever.

So you ask, what inspired this rant?? This fantastic article over at I think the author makes a great point and I was especially sensitive to the wedding related aspects of article, because I am sick of being characterized by these bastions of poor judgment. 

These shining beacons of bad behavior persist in our culture as life imitates art and vice versa, infusing even how we relate to one another. I am tired of people fleeing the room or telling me to "calm down" or calling me a "bridezilla" when I am simply stating my opinion or asserting a preference. 

I am calm, I am happy, and every now and then I am going to have an opinion ... and that a "zilla" of any kind does not make.


Jenny.Lee said...

I agree, it's extremely obnoxious.

Eve said...

AMEN SISTER, on all fronts! I can't agree with you more about having an opinion and then being chided for it (as if you shouldn't possibly have an idea about what you'd like for your wedding. Hello!) It was said of me the other day, "(when it comes to the wedding), the best thing to say to Eve is nothing at all." Ouch. Seriously. I think no matter how we behave, well or ill, some folks are destined to think that our having a solid idea about our weddings makes us 'zillas. I don't know about you, but that sometimes makes me want to really throw a fit so they can be clear on the differences :)

The Professional Bridesmaid said...

Great article. Thanks for sharing.

Anonymous said...

I agree! We keep perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women, and I think when planning our weddings, we all see how those tv images end up affecting our lives (how the "bridezilla" myth has become so ingrained in people's minds that there is an assumption about all brides, etc.). More of us need to call this garbage out more often!

anna said...

Oh how perfectly put! I hate the word b****zilla.

Whilst I have a certain style and I expect a certain level of service from suppliers, who cares if the peach is the wrong peach or the napkins do not match the toilet roll.

What I hate the most is that we are all tarred with the same brush and if one makes a request we are immediately thought to be a 'zilla.