* leave me a comment with your email address saying: “interview me”
* I will e-mail you five questions of my choice
* you can then answer the questions on your blog {with a link back to my blog}* you should also post these rules, along with an offer to interview anyone else who emails you, wanting to be interviewed
* anyone who asks to be interviewed will be sent 5 questions to answer on their blog
* the questions will be individualized for each blogger
So here are my answers to my very own interview questions ...
In terms, of my marriage, my relationship with Judaism is very different from my family. The Big Guy was way into the Judaism when I met him, he was still searching for his own practice-comfort-level but he is very well educated on Jewish traditions and culture, he knows how to practice in the traditional sense, he reads Hebrew and most of all he loves being Jewish, it is a huge part of who he is. When I met him, I was very distant from the religion. I was like my family - proud to represent who I was for all those who suffered for it but lost when it came to defining what "Jewish" really meant. So I started going to classes, then I went to lectures, then I did some workshops .. I still do all of that to this day and the Big Guy is an amazing resource when I have questions or want to debate about one thing or another. I am still learning and he is still exploring but we are trying to find that place in the middle where we can meet and sit comfortably together.
4) What is the one thing that you think people misunderstand about you the most?
I get a lot of questions about why I want to have a wedding at all ... and I gotta tell ya, it grates on my nerves. I want to marry the person I love and share that joy with my family friends ... um what is there not to understand?
But, I do think that most of the questioning comes from the fact that I am kind of a tomboy .. and by that I mean, I am a no-make-up wearing, sports watching, hiking, fighting with the guys, aggressively asserting my independence kinda gal ... who never really thought that she would get married. So I get, people are confused why I want the stuff that is normally associate with "weddings" but just because I am those things, doesn't mean I am not also a party animal who wants to wear a beautiful dress and honor the traditions of her ancestors by binding together her life with the life of her partner. I think frequently, we want to categorize people .. tomboy, feminist, girly girl, diva, etc ...but most of the time, just one label doesn't apply .. even I like to slap on some lipgloss, some mascara, and pair of high-heeled beauties every now then .. granted that 'every now and then' is rare, but it happens! It happens! Bottom line, just cause I hate romantic comedies and I like sports, don't mean I can't like weddings ... especially my own!
5) How did you know that you and your man were ready to get married?
I am not entirely sure. I was kind of anti-marriage when we met so we never really talked about it all that much. But then we started seeing examples of really fantastic couples, who got married and stayed fantastic! OR got even more fantastic (shocking! I know.) And it got me thinking, maybe marriage doesn't signify the end of your fun and sexy and happy relationship, maybe there is more. So, we started talking and I started exploring the world of marriage. Slowly, we both came around to the idea of committing to one another in front of our loved ones and we realized it was also a really great way to honor the traditions of our religion/culture. We couldn't be more excited about it now.
But the best is how I knew the Big Guy was thinking of proposing! We were listening to a song we both really liked at the time and I asked him what he thought the song was about. He immediately blurted out, "he is thinking about proposing to his girlfriend and he is scared." Then my Big Guy proceeded to turn bright red. It was sooo cute, I have clearly teased him about it mercilessly ever since.
Hope you liked my stories!!! And if you read all the way through .. wow! you are a trooper! Ok, now who wants to play???
6 comments:
Thanks for sharing. Really interesting to hear your answers. So I'm going to dive in and say 'interview me'! Can I e-mail you my e-mail address though? Hope that's okay! M x
Marie, definitely! I am excited to think up some good ones for you!
Oh man, I loved this! Thanks so much for doing this. I totally relished every answer. In order:
1) Ahaha as someone who studies immigration this cracked me up. Oh, the promise of America.
2) I am all about academic whims--love it. Also love the typically Jewish doctor vs. lawyer choice.
3) My family also came from the former Soviet Union and thus we have had similar issues. I am really interested in how you guys are learning together--that sounds wonderful and really rich.
4) I totally get this! Girly vs. tomboy is a false dichotomy! We can be both!
5) That story about your mister totally cracked me up. Ahaha.
Thanks for sharing that! I loved reading it! :)
How much do I love it when people share things on their blog. It's so interesting.
All I can say is, "I want more!"
I am so glad you guys liked me blabbering, thank you so much ladies! Your comments really mean a lot to me :)
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