Thursday, May 14, 2009

Wedding Update

We have a Rabbi, people, thats right ... place, check! rings, check! Rabbi, check check! Even if we don't get anything else we are definitely going to be married by the evening of January 24th.

Let me back up a bit. The Big Guy and I we are big into our Judaism, both as a culture and as a religion.  The Big Guy used to be a really religious and has become a lot more mainstream recently but still has a love for many of the traditions. 

I was born in the Soviet Union where practicing Judaism was illegal. So I grew up not understanding who I was or where I came from, all I knew was that I was a Jew and therefore I would never be considered truly Russian but also my family wasn't allowed to leave (for more info on how we were finally allowed to leave check out this film). 

So, after years of being scared, suspicious, curious, distrustful, and intrigued by religion, I started to get proactive. I started taking classes and learning and asking questions and figuring out not just what Judaism is but who I am. 

I first met our Rabbi when I signed up to do a condensed Bat Mitzvah course for people who had never had become Bat Mitzvah before, like yours truly. I so enjoyed his teaching style, his humor, his openness, his kindness, and his overall welcoming presence that I started going to all of his classes and bringing the Big Guy and all of our friends with me. 

When we got engaged, we knew we wanted someone who knew us, someone who cared about us, someone who was happy to see us take this big step together, and most of all someone who understand our strong feelings about our culture and ethnicity and he was the first person who came to mind. Blogland meet our officiant, Rabbi Lawrence Hajioff.

Check him out .... 


oh yeh, and he's British ... doesn't get much better than that.

{Videos from JEC}


The Professional Bridesmaid said...

lol. British accents are totally cool! Thanks for reminding us how lucky we are (at least in the Western world) to have freedom of religion.

Krista said...

I am so glad you found a rabbi you are comfortable with.

I am at work (cubibles) so I can't watch the videos ... but I look forward to it tonigh!

Good for you - I am just bursting with joy and pride for you. Seriously! Bursting!

And P.B.M. said it: we sometimes take our freedom for granted. Thank you for reminding us how lucky we are.

violarulz said...

I'm so glad you found a Rabbi that you know, are comfortable with, and who is willing/able to officiate your wedding! Yey!

Have you and your hubby gone on Birthright trips yet? Are you still eligible? When I went last summer, there was a married couple that was a part of my group and they got their own rooms wherever we went. Just throwing that out there. Going on that trip helped me feel more comfortable about my personal religious practice/beliefs.

Rambling on.... Our rabbi is British too (and I kinda have a schoolgirl crush on him). I told my gramma about how lovely it is to just listen to his voice and she became even more excited about the wedding! Woohoo for cute, British rabbis!

Anonymous said...

Congrats! Also my dad (who grew up in commie Poland) is looking at doing an adult bar mitzvah these days, at the age of 72! Much love for adult bar mitzvahs...

Anonymous said...

This has taken me waaaaay too long to do, but THANK YOU soooo much for all your wonderful comments on Victoria with Roses!!! I love your blog, and I am going to start commenting in return--my sincerest apologies for having taken so long. You are such a wonderful person--thank you so much for all your nice words!!!

Bridechka said...

Thank you so PBM and Krista for your lovely comments! You girls show me so much love and I am so grateful :)

Viola, we actually went on birthright together a few years ago, it was an amazing (life altering experience) and it is how I met our Rabbi since the Bat Mitzvah class I attended was offered by the birthright organization to alums of their trips. So cool about your Rabbi being British too, good taste I guess!

Accordions, much love is right, he rocks for taking that on!

Victoria, I am so flattered, thank you!