Thursday, December 4, 2008
Why do people ask me stupid questions?
Ok so I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but I am seriously overwhelmed by the amount of idiotic (and wedding/marriage related) questions that seem to come flying my way.
Before the Big Guy and I got engaged we were dating for a really long time and relentlessly we would get asked, "Why haven't you guys gotten married?" or "When are you gonna get married already?" Now besides the inherent lack of tact it takes to ask anything in this line of questioning, there is also the complete and utter deficiency in common sense to ask uninvited personal questions about someone else's relationship. If you're close (and I mean CLOSE) family member then it may be acceptable to inquire into the relationship of your child/grandchild but if that does not describe you, then put the detective act away and honestly chill!
But, my absolute, all-time favorite has got to be, "So, are you engaged yet?" This was asked not only by people we hadn't seen in a long time and not only by older relatives but by acquaintances and friends who we saw on a regular basis in our age group!!!
My real problem with this question is, if you feel that you are close enough to us to ask this preposterously stupid question then wouldn't you assume we would have TOLD YOU somehow??? I kept wondering if these people thought that I had Alzheimer's. As if they will ask, "Are you engaged yet?" and I will say, "OMG! We are! I totally forgot to tell you until just this second that you reminded me! Thank goodness for your constant pestering or I would have forgotten to tell anyone that the man I love has asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. Silly me!"
So when we did get engaged (and announced the news pretty well I might add), I thought well at least the idiot parade of engagement interrogation is over. Yeh people will ask about planning process and stuff like that but at least it won't be the same stupid "are you?" over and over again! Ahhh! How naive! How wrong! I learned my lesson today, when friend of mine from high school (whose wedding I recently attended and who I had planned on inviting to my own) asked me, "Hey, are you MARRIED yet?"